Fifty nine women accused Bill Cosby of rape, drug facilitated sexual assault, sexual battery, child sexual abuse or sexual misconduct. Roger Ailes, Chairman and CEO of Fox News, TV Journalist Bill O’Reilly, Isiah Thomas; President and coach of the New York Nicks, Bill Clinton; President of The United States, President Donald Trump, United States Senator Al Franken, US Representative John Conyers, Larry Nassar; former USA gymnastics team doctor, Charley Rose; venerable and well respected journalist and TV host and Roy Moore; former Chief Justice and current US Senate candidate, have all sexually abused women and or girls who were under their implied or explicit authority.
There is a more sickening commonality; all of the women remained silent because they knew that no one would believe them. They’d have no credibility because they are mere females in a [M]ale dominated world. They are “Less Than”, Dispensable; Unequal. Fear of being vilified, denigrated, publicly humiliated, physically assaulted and/or labeled unemployable has kept the women silent.
I won’t refer to or think of these courageous sisters as victims. However, we must also consider the unimaginable number of women and girls who remain invisible and suffer in silence. To be clear, men are not the only abusers and young boys also suffer sexual abuse at an alarming rate.
The point is this: Adult men must stand beside women and girls and say No More! We must recognize that young boys are programmed by society to think it’s OK to violate a woman or girl’s physical space.
If we men don’t change our mental attitude towards females and work to end sex bias, society as a whole will suffer for it. We must eliminate negative words, images and behaviors toward women and girls while promoting equality, respect and love through education and advocacy for the benefit of all.
This is the mission of Be Good To Women Day®/The Be Good To Women Collective. Join us.
Tools For Healing is a teen grief ministry founded to help young people between the ages of twelve and nineteen cope with the pain of loosing a family member or close friend. We too often fail to realize that much of the negative behavior from our young people stems from pain that they don’t know how to deal with. We’re here to help.
Young people are dying from unresolved issues related to grief. We must help them.
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We have been inundated ad nauseam with Donald Trump’s misogynistic stream of abusive language and reported sexual assaults upon women and their feelings of being powerless to defend themselves against him.
The fact that Trump is wrong is inarguable; but he is not the problem. Donald J Trump is what you get in a society when women are not considered to be equal. Because of this attitude toward women and girls it’s OK to rape, abuse and ignore them. You can do whatever you want to a woman just because she’s female.
Focusing on Trump won’t solve his sickness or our problem. The fact that millions of people, men and women, are willing to ignore his total disrespect for anyone who is not white and male and support him for president, tells us that we are the ones with the sickness. We are the ones who let Trump happen.
We must work to change the psychology of inequality if we are to save this nation. Join the fight. It’s up to “We The People.” Government can’t do it. It’s been bought and sold.
Be Good To Women Day / The Be Good To Women Collective
As we prepare for our upcoming panel discussion on March 5, we want to feature our panelists. Today, we meet Rev. Dr. Charles Lee-Johnson.
Dr. Charles Lee Johnson is the pastor of Corona Community Church. He is also CEO of the National Family Life and Education Center which provides local, national and international consultation and training services. Dr. Johnson is unequivocally committed to positive development of young people, families and communities across the world. We are honored to have him as a panelist for “Are You Hearing Me? Am I Hearing You?”
Why is positive communication between men and women important to you personally?
Families are the manufacturing agencies in which people are produced. When the manufacturing agency is broken, it produces a broken product, and Broken families produce broken people. While many people focus on repairing families by seeking to fix individuals, and others seek to address social issues that are impacting families, history is a clear teacher that healthy communication is the glue that holds families together. I was blessed to have a wonderful mother, but I had a father whose alcoholism and crack cocaine abuse prevented him from being involved in my rearing. Even after he recovered, my biological father lacked the ability to effectively and positively communicate with my mother, which led to his being absent in my life. I decided very early in my life, to work on being a great communicator, in an effort to prevent the latter phases of my life from being as broken as the former. The cycle of pain that could have engulfed my marriage and children has been broken, because of the early and conscious decision I made to be a good communicator.
How can men and women communicate better in dating and married relationships?
Most people are very egocentric, in the fact that we believe everyone communicates the way we do. This ignores the fact that there are a plethora of communication styles, and most of our personal communication styles were developed in our respective families. In other words, the culture of our families dictates our communication style. Those who seek to have healthy relationships must be intentional in understanding the family context and communication style of their partner. Failure to understand a partner’s family of origin, childhood rearing, or communication style, will prohibit true intimacy in any relationship. Communication requires hard work by both parties to seek first to understand, then to be understood.
How can women and men communicate better in work place/business interactions?
Respect is key, if there is to be positive communication between men and women in the workplace. Men must approach women from a position of humility, honor, grace, kindness, and fairness. Women must approach men from a position of humility, gentleness, sensitivity, and understanding. Men and Women bring unique gifts and perspectives to the workplace, and knowing how to effectively work together through positive communication can lead to growth and prosperity for the company and its employees.
In your work; i.e., counseling or coaching others, What percentage of the problems between men and women stem from miscommunication?
Nearly 90% of the issues that couples bring to me as a counselor and Pastor are rooted in unhealthy communication habits. While most couples come to counseling seeking an immediate remedy for their presenting issue, I always try to get couples to address the larger communication issues that exist within their relationship; which are, quite often, driving the very behavior within their significant other that they abhor. This requires spending significant time understanding the childhood experiences of their partner, which are always the primary influence on our communication styles. Couples who are patient and courageous enough to take this journey, experience an intimacy that allows them to overcome nearly any adversity.
Read the interviews with our other panelists here and join us March 5 at Emmanuel HM Turner Church in Los Angeles for Are You Hearing Me? Am I Hearing You? See all the details, RSVP, and invite your friends and family here.
Her childhood was stolen by someone she should have been able to trust. Such is the plight of children who are sexually abused. This is only part of Stephanie’s story. She shares it here so that others may be motivated to Save Our Babies.